We’ve all been there before. You’ve just picked up your little one from another day of day care or preschool and excitedly check in: “How was school today?” Chances are, you’ve heard these simple answers at one point: “Good.” “Okay.” “I forget.”

These responses are ok. Remember, our children are young and still learning to process and communicate! It’s our job to learn how to help them grow in these ways.

At Children’s Discovery Center, we believe every child has something meaningful to share. They just need to hear the right kind of question; open-ended, specific prompts can spark reflection or storytelling, making it easier and more likely for your child to share.

8 Better Questions to Learn About Your Child’s Day

The words we share with our children, especially in everyday moments, help shape the way they see themselves, build relationships and understand the world. That’s why conversations should be more than just check-ins. Thoughtful questions can help them reflect, express themselves and feel seen.

What exactly are thoughtful questions? Our early childhood educators have created a short list of eight that help kids process their day and build stronger connections with the people who love them most.

1. “What made you smile today?”

This simple question invites positivity without pressure. It helps children identify joyful moments, like a silly joke, a fun game or a sweet friend, while also practicing gratitude.

2. “What was tricky for you today?”

Every day includes little challenges. Whether it’s putting on shoes independently or waiting for a turn, naming something tricky builds emotional vocabulary and opens the door for encouragement.

3. “Who did you play with?”

Friendships play a special role in early childhood development. This question can lead to fun stories and give you a glimpse into your child’s social world. Follow up with “What did you play?” or “What made it fun?” to keep the conversation going.

4. “What’s something new you tried today?”

Whether it’s a new food, a new word or a new way to solve a problem, asking this question shows your child that you value curiosity and courage.

5. “Did anything surprise you today?”

Children are natural observers. This prompt invites them to share moments that sparked their interest or stood out (even if they can’t quite explain why yet).

6. “What’s something kind you did (or saw someone do)?”

Empathy grows through reflection. Asking about kindness helps children recognize caring behaviors in themselves and others, reinforcing CDC’s values of compassion and community.

7. “What did you do that you’re proud of?”

This is a powerful confidence-builder! Help your child notice their own progress, such as putting on a coat, helping a friend or completing a project.

8. “What do you want to do again tomorrow?”

Asking this gives children agency and helps them reflect on what they enjoy most. It also builds anticipation for what’s to come.

Helpful Tips for Asking Questions (By Age)

Not all questions will resonate with every child in the same way. Here are a few ways to adjust your approach based on your little one’s early childhood development.

Toddlers (1–3 years)

• Use simple words and playful tones.
• Try yes/no or “this or that” questions.
• Ask them to show you with their hands, face or a drawing.

Preschoolers (3–5 years)

• Ask open-ended questions that spark imagination.
• Use follow-ups like “What happened next?” or “How did that make you feel?”
• Be patient. Some children process more slowly or may need a familiar routine to open up.

Pre-K/Kindergarten (5–6 years)

• Invite them to reflect on challenges and successes.
• Encourage storytelling about their day.
• Support emotional vocabulary by naming feelings together.

Most importantly, don’t force the conversation. Let it evolve naturally. You don’t need to ask every question every day. Try one or two during pickup, snack time or before bed. Over time, these little conversations add up and help your child feel seen and supported.

Discover the CDC Difference

For more than 40 years, Children’s Discovery Center has helped guide and expand the minds of Toledo’s youngest explorers. Our dedicated staff nurtures children into becoming lifelong learners by providing an innovative environment that promotes self-led discovery. Contact us today to learn more about our Reggio Emilia approach to learning, register your child and tour our facilities.